9) Celebrate yourself.  One of the hardest things for us to do as human being is to celebrate our accomplishments.  It is vital that you learn how to do this for yourself, the big stuff and the little stuff.  This creates energy on the subconscious level and sends a message out to the Universe that says, “Send me more good stuff”.  So the next time that you take a risk and public speak, whether it’s a big function or one on one, congratulate yourself.  Tell yourself “way to go me”.  Often times we look to others to give us this kind of attention.  But did you ever get a compliment and you brushed it off?  This is usually because we are negated the statement in our minds.  Celebrating yourself opens us up to the opportunity to take in others compliments much easier, because we are already giving it to ourselves. 10) Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.  As with celebrating yourself, having gratitude toward something attracts more of it into your life.  Even if the … [Read more...]

5) Have a personal motivational statement.  Develop a short, easy to remember statement that you can say to yourself when you are nervous about something you have to say.  Mine is “I am a magnetic, expressive, decisive and real woman”.  This statement is something you can rely on to get you through a tough situation.  And just like breathing, it gives you something to focus on other than your nervousness and negative self talk. 6) Dress for Success.  Appearance matters.  Often times we underestimate the impact of how we look.  And the greatest impact is on us.  Feeling great about how you look gives you that extra edge to be able to speak to people with confidence.  So when you have to speak to someone, put on your favorite outfit, iron your clothes, shine your shoes, and hopefully it will be a good hair day!!! 7) Carry a special object or personal item.  For at least the first 8 years that I was a professional speaker I always carried this little green stone in my … [Read more...]

As I mentioned in the introduction to this series, I don’t have the magic key that is going to take away your fear of speaking to people.  But if applied, these tips can certainly ease the mental, emotional, and physical stress that grips you when you have to speak in public or even have a difficult one on one conversation. 1)      Thoughts become our reality.  Most of the time what keeps up from speaking up in any situation is our negative self talk.  We say things to ourselves such as “I can’t do this”, “I’ll look stupid”, “They won’t like me”, and “I’m going to make a mistake”.  These thoughts are not the truth, although we are very good at convincing ourselves that they are the truth.  This keeps us from taking action in life.  And creates a ton of stress inside us.  Becoming aware of the negative thoughts and transforming them is the key to having a life of freedom and confidence.  Consciously changing those thoughts to ones like “I know … [Read more...]

They say that the number one fear we have as human beings is the fear of public speaking!  And that the number 2 fear is the fear of death.  Now, isn’t that interesting.  In other words, people would sooner die than public speak.  This astounds me, but when I think about it, I can totally understand it.  When I started out as a public speaker I was terrified.  It took every ounce of courage I could muster up inside me to step in front of a group and speak about a subject that I was passionate about.  And there were times in the beginning that I felt like I was going to die before stepping in front of a group. Fortunately not all of us have to speak in front of groups.  Often time we think that opportunity is reserved for seminar leaders, lawyers, actors, politicians, or teachers.  And this is true however, when I look at my life before I was a public speaker, there were numerous opportunities that I had to speak in front of people!  And when I examine those times of my … [Read more...]

A critical component with goal setting is to learn to celebrate your accomplishments.  If you have studied and believe in the Law of Attraction then you know that celebrating and acknowledging your accomplishments an the things you are happy with and proud of sends a message out to the Universe that you want more of that!  And the Universe wants you to have what you want.  What you focus on and give energy to persists.  So why not give energy to what you are happy about.  There is no better way to do this than to celebrate your accomplishments. First off, if you find that are not accomplishing anything, than re-evaluate your goals.  They may be a little too elusive, or unrealistic.  People have a hard time setting concrete goals.  We tend to be too general, and when we are, we never know when we have really achieved something or not.  For instance setting am objective that says "I will be open" vs a more specific one that says "On Monday night I will sit down and have that … [Read more...]